After nights of crying (on”J”s part and almost on my part), fighting over sleeping arrangements, and just plain tiredness I have given up! I have been fighting with “J” at night to get him to sleep in his own bed. I have made excuses why he might like our bed better than his- but he honestly has always been allowed in our bed from day one.
“J” was a couple of weeks early so he hated being on his back and would only sleep if he was curled up on either Husband’s or my chest. We traveled a bit when he was young and so having him in the bed with me allowed me to not wake others in the room/be discreet with mid-night feedings.
When “J” was about a year old, we made him cry it out and he slept through the night in his crib. We moved houses, had “E”, converted “J”s crib into a toddler bed, and “J” started teething all within a very short time frame- as a comfort with all the changes we again allowed “J” into our bed for cuddles.
Now at nearly 2 years old, “J” just loves being in our bed. He likes to cuddle like crazy (and also kick mid-sleep). He will go down to sleep in his own bed around 8:30pm but will awaken in the middle of the night. And this is when the crying/fighting/sleeplessness happens.
SO I talked to the pediatrician and looked online for other moms-of-toddlers experiences/advice….and I have resolved myself. Husband doesn’t care if “J” is in our bed- honestly he likes it…because of his crazy work hours this is part of the little bits of time he gets to cuddle/play/talk to “J”…and we all get better sleep if we aren’t fighting/crying. Therefore I am going to stop the battle, let “J” cuddle, and just enjoy the toddler-cuddle-love while I can before he grows up (and no longer wants to give me hugs because it ruins his tough-guy-teenager image-lol). I figure he will sleep in his own bed when he is ready.