I really don’t know what I am doing. Am I getting it right or is he totally going to blindsided? I mean I have to actually think about doing it. Before it just didn’t need to be done.
I am talking about preparing J for the new baby. When I was pregnant with E, J was just too young to really do any preparing. E is pretty much at the same place as that- no real preparing can be done. I am sure J knew and E knows something is up. I mean the growing belly doesn’t exactly say “everything is staying the same”.
However J is getting old enough now that I have to think about how to prepare him for the new baby. When he touches my belly I tell him about the baby. I have pulled out both boys’ baby books and showed them to him. I tell him when he jumps at me or tries to playfully push me over that I can’t because he has to be gentle with baby. This is the only thing I can think of doing. Also as the day gets closer I will find books on new baby in the house/big brother.
I think something is sinking in though. It was so incredibly cute the other day. J got off the potty in the morning and I told him- as our usual routine- to go into his room and pick out underwear and clothes. We went to his room and he got dressed. BUT then out of the blue, J gives me a hug and says “I hug baby”! I laughed and told him that he would have to hug mommy lower if he wanted to hug the baby. So J hugged my belly, smiled, and again said “I hug baby”. I gave him a hug back and said thank you.
It wasn’t just this one time either. J has repeated this “hug baby” many times. And yesterday, J did even more. He came over, sat down on my lap, and rubbed my belly! He then told me he was touching baby. I thanked him for being so nice and gentle with the baby. He smiled and repeated “I touch baby”.
I don’t know what the heck I am doing. I am just really, really hoping that I am preparing J in the best way for him. I am waiting for the moment that J happens to rub or touch my swelling belly that the baby kicks. I hope he and E connect the same way with the baby as they have over the past 16 months.